LivinGology

Jealousy

"Attack is the best defence."

Jealousy is one of the most powerful feelings in interpersonal relationships. It is defined as feeling angry or unhappy becuse somebody you like or love is showing interest in somebody else. Some people are more jealous than others. Why? 
We can trace back the reasons to early
childhood and a particular traumatic moment but any explanation of that type would be a kind of excuse to justify our present behaviour. We can easily relate jealousy to the sense of possessiveness as well, which you see is a trait that can not be easily changed. But let's see jealousy from a different perspective.
There is a defense mechanism in psychology called projection. Psychological projection is when one attributes (projects) to others, one’s own unacceptable or unwanted thoughts and emotions. Say, we are extremely jealous of our partner. We live with the unpleasant thought that someone else can steal them from us. Are we not actually scare of the fact that we ourselves are the ones than can let be stolen? By manifesting a feeling of jealousy we are unconsciously showing our lack of 
willpower and confidence as partners. On the contrary, non-jealous people seem not to use the mechanism of projection resulting in a more stable and 
affectionate relationship.